I was reading an article in TIMES magazine yesterday night.
I couldn't help nodding my head in agreeing to what was
written in it.
Yes, I am an Introvert.
No matter how hard I try to be an extrovert.
I could never be one or rather I am not comfortable to be one.
Author was not trying to make any judgement on people.
Just a healthy explanation of the characteristics of this 2 types
of people in general.
Some of the things mentioned in the articles reminds me when I was young.
Many attempts trying to change myself to be an extrovert.
Be it polishing my social skill and expanding social circles.
During my school days, extrovert people tends to be more well-received and
'popular' than the less extrovert ones.
But I always feel awkward and uneasy and sometimes, even feel constrained.
Even till now, at this age, I still feel 'uncomfortable' in big crowd
meeting, parties and gatherings.
So since then...I have already stop changing myself.
I accept the way I am now.
As an introvert, I always like to spend most of my time alone.
I was never a lonely person when I am alone.
I will feel more lonely if I am in a big group.
I usually prefer smaller groups of 2 to 3 friends.
And when I am in a group, I prefer to be a listener than to
express myself unless topic is something I am interested in.
When I have problems, I usually try to solve them by myself.
It's some kind of a 'self-healing' power some of friends said
I have, hahahhaha :) I am not sure if that is true.
But if I really want to talk about my problems, it takes courage
because I hardly opened up to friends unless I felt I need to.
If not most of the time, I practice 'self-healing' power. :D
I am very sensitive to surroundings and people.
Weather and people do affect my moods.
I tends to think a lot too.
I look simple from outside but I am more very complex from inside.
I think a lot of negative stuffs when I was younger.
Recent years, my thinking is a little more intellectual.
Thanks to my reading habit. :)
After saying that, I think everyone has a little of both sides.
For me, I can say I am a 90% introvert and 10% extroverted.
To live in harmony, no matter which sides you are in,
we have to learn to accept people and respect the way they are.
Instead of putting remarks like,"why you are always so anti-social?"
Sorry folks, that's me la. :)
And of course vise versa.
I respect extroverts.
I got 17 'YES" out of 20 quiz that came with the article.
ARE YOU AN INNIE OR AN OUTIE?Answer yes or no to the questions below to find out where you fall
on the introversion spectrum.
YES/NO 1. I prefer one-to-one conversations to group activities.
YES/NO 2. I often prefer to express myself in writing.
YES/NO 3. I enjoy solitude.
YES/NO 4. I seems to care less than my peers about wealth, fame and status.
YES/NO 5. I dislike small talk, but I enjoy talking in depth about topics
that matters to me.
YES/NO 6. I People tells me that I'm a good listener.
YES/NO 7. I'm not a big risk taker.
YES/NO 8. I enjoy work that allows me to dive in with few interruptions.
YES/NO 9. I like to celebrate Birthdays on a small scale with only one
or two close friends or family members.
YES/
NO 10. People describe me as soft spoken or mellow.
YES/NO 11. I prefer not to show my work or discuss it with others until
it is finished.
YES/NO 12. I dislike conflict.
YES/NO 13. I do my best work alone.
YES/NO 14. I tend to think before I speak.
YES/NO 15. I feel drained after being out and about, even if I've enjoyed myself.
YES/NO 16. I often let calls go to voice mail.
YES/NO 17. I If I had to choose, I'd prefer a weekend with absolutely nothing
to do to one with too many things scheduled.
YES/
NO 18. I don't enjoy multitasking.
YES/
NO 19. I concentrate easily.
YES/NO 20. In classrooms, I prefer lectures to seminars.
Answer scaleThere are no fixed scores, since both introversion and extroversion falls
along a continuum, with many people-known as ambiverts-falling somewhere in
between. Still, the more yes answers you put down, the more introverted
you are likely to be-and vice versa.
Quiz extracted from TIMES magazine issue 5, 2012.
